The Belle Jar

1. Assume that you are loved.

2. Assume that those who love you find some kind of value in you and the things you do.

3. Assume, however, that you don’t need to be valuable in order to be worthy of love.

4. Assume that there is no one out there keeping a tally of all of your failings, ready to throw it in your face when you’re either feeling too good or too awful about yourself.

5. Assume that if anyone actually is keeping a tally of all your failings, that act says more about them than it does about you.

6. Assume that you can’t make all of the people happy all of the time; maybe not even some of the people some of the time.

7. Assume that you will, over the course of your life, sometimes anger or disappoint the people you love.

8. Assume that…

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Of love and pain………

Its very easy to fall in love……….very hard to keep it going……..despite the distance, the insecurities and the uncertainities…………
Must have heard the above lines from many people before and wud hear it again……….
But I say its not tht hard, when you know what gives you true happiness………is it to remain close to someone………physically? Mentally?……..
I say its all in the state of the mind…………whn u have somebody in ur mind always and althrough, whn u start loving a person without expecting anything, accept him as he is with all the flaws and weaknesses, but still continue to feel the love for him/her without prejudices thts love for me, and I have learnt this wonderful truth about love from an amazing person who is too good to be true……..
I learnt from him tht there is no falling in love, there is only growing and making the relationship more beautiful……..
Some people say tht this is too rosy a picture, and where there is love their will be definitely pain and hurt………
True……..I’ve felt like tht myself many times,but wht is being hurt and in pain? Its again a mental condition, u expect and wish for something and whn tht is not happening u start feeling hurt, but tht feeling of hurt is something which is generated by you in your head, no one can hurt you without your letting them……….and you don’t get hurt whn you truely love someone and everything they do……….all tht matters is, does this persons existence in your life makes you happy or not…….
It might sound very utopic, but u will know it only when you experiance it, the true feeling of being in unconditional love with somebody and the beauty of it……….
Love is eternal and all_encompassing, and its not just the girl and boy love, every kind of relationship has this love, if only you can remove the hatred and negative feelings……….its a beautifull world outside there, filled with lots of love………